Too many couples fall out of love because they forget this simple idea. In our hyped-up, information overload, too-many-things-to-do world it is way too easy to lose track of one’s partner. You might be reading the news in bed on your tablet, answering the phone at the dinner table, working on the weekends, or simply […]Continue Reading... No Comments.
By Melissa Orlov, Nancie Kohlenberger, LMFT When it comes to having good fights with your partner, it’s important to understand that more than half of your battles are unresolvable. They result from deep differences in opinion or approach. A common non-ADHD/ADHD difference, for example, has to do with what constitutes “adequately organized” — whether it […]Continue Reading... No Comments.
By Sheri Stritof Many times an adult is diagnosed with ADD or ADHD after a child is diagnosed. Then light bulbs go off in the other spouse’s head as behaviors that hurt and sabotage the marriage are recognized as symptoms of ADHD and not a lack of caring or motivation. Even with this awareness, the […]Continue Reading... No Comments.
By Terena Bell very relationship has its questions of timing: How many dates do you go on before sex? When should you allow your date to pick up the check? How early is too early to tell him you have ADHD? That last one isn’t a question for every new relationship. But it is for […]Continue Reading... No Comments.
By Sandy Maynard Maintaining friendships is hard work for most adults with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). It means making commitments and following through, neither of which are big strengths of ours. If we wind up canceling or, worse, forgetting about a coffee date or movie night altogether, we feel guilty, frustrated, and worse than […]Continue Reading... No Comments.
By Jennie Friedman Growing up in the same household with someone doesn’t mean you share the exact same childhood. Take my sister and me; we couldn’t be more different. When one sibling has undiagnosed attention deficit, and the other does not, the nature-versus-nurture divide becomes readily apparent. I am the older of us two, by […]Continue Reading... No Comments.
By Larry Maucieri Ph.D., ABPP-CN In self-help resources on adult ADHD (including this blog), we usually focus on the people who have ADHD, and their struggles and experiences. How, for instance, does ADHD impact their work? Home life? Relationships? What we don’t talk much about are the others in the intimate relationships. The partners, spouses, […]Continue Reading... No Comments.
By Melissa Orlov All couples fight. It’s part of love and marriage. But not all couples know how to move on after a dispute — and those who do have a serious edge, and a greater chance at lasting happiness. The goal for all couples (particularly those with ADHD) is not to stop fighting — […]Continue Reading... No Comments.
By Edward Hallowell If you are married to someone with attention deficit disorder (ADD ADHD), you have probably wondered how many times you will have to forgive him or her. ADD is not easy — for those who have it or for those who live with them! That’s why all ADHD marriages can benefit from […]Continue Reading... No Comments.
By Jacqueline Sinfield There is a great article in The Atlantic, about what happy couples do differently than unhappy couples or ones that break up. It is based on the life work of psychologist, John Gottman and the great thing is that it’s something everyone can do, starting today. Back in 1986, John created ‘The […]Continue Reading... No Comments.