IT’S HARD NOT TO TAKE THINGS PERSONALLY. When someone shouts at you on the road, you feel the sting of their anger. When scrolling through social media, you see a picture of a friend out with your other friends—and wonder why you were not invited. When you write a friend or relative to get together, it’s […]Continue Reading... No Comments.
Do you dismiss a compliment? Do you attribute success at your work to luck instead of your intelligence, creativity, or effort? Do you hide who you think you really are and show others a facade to please them? Many adults (and kids) with ADHD have trouble accepting positive feedback about themselves. Years of hearing about their deficiencies or experiencing […]Continue Reading... No Comments.
By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS It takes you forever to do the simplest tasks. Why can’t you be more productive? Faster? Smarter? Better? No one will hire you. You always mess up important opportunities. No one likes your ideas. No one likes you. When these thoughts run through our minds, we assume they’re true-blue truths. And we […]Continue Reading... No Comments.
By Patricia Quinn, MD We adults with ADHD are good at beating ourselves up and being way too hard on ourselves. We are more forgiving and understanding of our friends’ belly flops than we are of our own. Gabor Maté, a physician and author of Scattered Minds, writes about the harsh judgments some people with attention […]Continue Reading... No Comments.
By Elizabeth Broadbent I feel personally attacked more than most people do. The sharp tips of criticism gut me open. Even the anticipation of rejection can paralyze me. And when it does, I’m tough to live with, tough to calm, tough to help. Here is how Rejection Sensitivity challenges my most important relationships, and what […]Continue Reading... No Comments.
BY ALISE COGGER, PH.D. “Being repeatedly misunderstood causes people with ADHD to deeply misunderstand themselves and their situations. Feeling deficient and mistrusting yourself from an early age makes it extraordinarily difficult to properly evaluate yourself as an adult. These misunderstandings can have rough consequences, so what can we do about it?” Read the full articleContinue Reading... No Comments.
Low self-esteem can be deeply rooted, with origins in traumatic childhood experiences such as prolonged separation from parentfigures, neglect, or emotional, physical, or sexual abuse. In later life, self-esteem can be undermined by ill health, negative life events such as losing a job or getting divorced, deficient or frustrating relationships, and a general sense of lack of control. Read the full articleContinue Reading... No Comments.
By Tyler Tervooren Self-doubt is a special kind of hell. A small failure makes you question yourself and your abilities and, next thing you know, you feel like you aren’t good enough or smart enough to do anything. And that’s about the time you stop trying. We’ve all been there but, not everyone handles it the same […]Continue Reading... No Comments.
By Sylvia Clare MSc. Psychol I love having ADHD nowadays. It was not always like that. How can we love ourselves when we are so much of a problem to everyone else? I grew up being told if it wasn’t for me, the whole family would be happy. No one knew about ADHD back then, […]Continue Reading... No Comments.