• Forget Resolutions. What do you REALLY Want?

    It’s that time of year when many of us are prone to making New Years Resolutions to get or achieve something new or different. But do resolutions really work?

    Success experts will tell you that for the most part those annual resolutions are simply an exercise in ‘wishful thinking’. In fact, resolutions are powerless because the individual making the resolution often lacks true intention and commitment to MAKE IT HAPPEN! Thus, I refer to these statements as ‘good ideas’ and nothing more. Simply stated, resolutions lack ‘resolve’.

    How often do adults with ADHD make false promises? It’s probably safe to say that ADD’ers mean well but are frequently side-tracked when it comes time to carry the thought or promise into deliberate action. Furthermore, our ADHD behavioral tendencies of forgetfulness, procrastination, disorganization and distractibility often contribute to our breakdowns with success and accomplishment. In time, the person on the receiving end of the empty promises begins to doubt our true intention and reliability. Isn’t this true?

    The end of any year is a great time to review your past year. It’s a good time to examine what was working and not working that created the results you got in 2014. This is also a wonderful time to look into your future and design a vision of how and where you’d like to see yourself at the end of ‘2015’.

    Would you like to create some rock solid success results in 2015? Consider the following steps:

    • First, get crystal clear of what you REALLY want (to create) for your life. I’m not talking about a good idea. I’m talking about something that you REALLY want. Something that gets you real excited and gets your juices flowing when you think about having it or achieving it.
    • Second, sit down and write a single page description about how your life will benefit, how will it be different as a result of having or achieving this (what you want). Be very descriptive and write it with emotion and excitement. Write it descriptively as if you are watching a movie play out before your eyes. The more emotion you evoke the more powerful this statement will be for you.
    • Next, define your timeline or due date for having or achieving your desired result. When coaching my clients, I like to know the ‘what’ by ‘when’. Tell me WHAT you intend to do, by WHEN. Without this step even great ideas remain simply ‘good ideas’. This is your means of measuring your progress and allows you to make adjustments as needed.
    • Finally, there is a tendency for adults with ADHD to “Do it alone”, to be the “Lone Ranger”. All highly successful people have someone else or others to support them. Identify an ‘Accountability Buddy’ – someone who will support you during your successes and breakdowns. Most important is your willingness to be 100% transparent and accountable to your ‘Accountability Buddy’. Again, successful people do not live in isolation.

    Question: Are you truly inspired to make your 2015 a memorable and successful year?

    If you answered YES, then I invite you to contact me strategy session – “What Do You REALLY Want In 2015?”      


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