Last week I was at a local eatery visiting with some friends. One of the friends, a 3rd grade teacher, was discussing her student’s recent project researching the advantages and disadvantages of entrepreneurship. Her students listed the typical advantages of freedom of working for one self, doing what they wanted to do. They also listed the disadvantages of having to manage everything in the business and working long hours.
Hearing this, one woman at our table commented, “I feel like my husband is married to his work… and I am his mistress”.
Research has shown that a high percentage of adults with ADHD are self-employed, entrepreneurs. This status suits the ADHD desire for novelty (new projects and tasks), and the flexibility to switch from task or interests to the next vs a structured and rule governed work environment. Of course, the down side of flexibility and impulsivity is the ADHD entrepreneur works long hours just to keep up; to make up for the earlier misdirected focus on a squirrel moment. Then there is the mismanagement of time, initiating new and novel interests or projects which take time and focus away from the primary intended tasks. ADHD entrepreneurs are generally very busy but are frequently behind, overwhelmed, stressed/anxious and working long hours just trying to catch up or keep up. The ADHD entrepreneur is married to his/her work. Unfortunately, their significant others, wife or husband and family members
Do you feel like you’re married to your work or business? Do you feel like you never have enough time in your work day? Do you feel like you can never get away from your work? Is your relationship and family suffering
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