By Brenda Nicholson
In many ways, it makes sense. As parents, we praise our kids for singing their ABCs, sharing their toys, and plenty of other bright daily moments. But we also instinctively blurt out “Don’t do that!” “No – stop!” and “I said ‘no'” all day, everyday to keep them healthy and safe (or so we think).
Most of us are guilty of negative self talk. We deflect compliments others give us by downplaying them. If we make a mistake, we blame ourselves, citing stupidity or some other imagined flaw.It’s not entirely our fault that we focus on the negative; most of us were taught this from an early age.
A more recent study done on both deaf and hearing subjects found that negative self talk adversely affects learning, performance, and skill acquisition. Think about what this means to your life. Negative self talk can hold you back, preventing you from doing your best. And by not being able to maintain focus and attention, you risk never being able to reach your true potential.